Fathers, step-fathers, brothers, uncles and grandfathers are the first line of masculine influence a young girl is encountering in her development.

You - the males in her life- do possess the great potential to influence girls with healthy body-image.

On the other hand you also posses powerful influence, unintentionally, to create shame, self-doubt, body-dissatisfaction and breast-obsession.

Breast-obsession in individuals, both males and females, develops when there is great significance and preoccupation with size and shape of female breasts. When these preoccupations become severe, they may be viewed as obsessions.

These obsessions may be prevented.

In Part1 of an article by the same title I offered seven tips for enhancing healthy body-image in daughters' first bra experience.

Here are some home remedies; several suggestions of becoming aware of these influences you possess.

Now for the suggestions of what not to do:

1. Do not use the event of 'first bra' to comment on daughter's breast size and shape. For a sensitive pre-teen girl, there is potential for shaming. No matter what your comment is, even a great compliment, any mention of her developing body, might be experienced as comparisons to others and therefore shaming, in her mind.

2. Use clean language. In the privacy of my office, girls often tell me that comments, jokes and even light touching and pointing at their developing breasts make them feel 'dirty'.

3. Beware of the 'sexy factor'. Emphasizing the importance of breasts as a tool to attract boys or a means to compete with other girls is a big step towards creating shame, inadequacy and fear of not being 'good enough' in a young developing mind.

4. No jokes or humor; what is funny for you is a potential body-image killer for her.

5. Do not make sexual or even sex-appeal or attractiveness comments. A pre-teen girl does not have the sophistication to interpret your intentions as humor or loving gesture.

6. No touching or pointing at her breasts! This private event makes a girl self-conscious enough. She does not need to deal with your lack of boundaries too.

7. Do not stop hugging, hand holding, affectionate touching as you used to do. I don't mean to confuse you; girls actually tell me how much they miss the affectionate hugs with parents and family members. Girls notice that as soon as they begin to develop breasts, fathers and other males avoid hugging them. Hugging does not constitute sexual touching. Do not stop those loving rituals.

For best understanding of your role and its importance in this passage in your daughter's life, please refer to part 1 of an article by the same title.

Body-image is an important issue for your daughter's health and mental health. Learn more about it.

There are more solutions and observations for body-image issues. These ideas are presented in the program: The Body Trap. This educational/entertaining program may be delivered as a keynote speech or a seminar. For keynotes, seminars and relationship-coaching contact Dr. Nili Sachs directly: hello@drnilisachs.com

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